How to Fuck His Prostate: A Woman’s Guide to Giving Your Man Mind Blowing Anal Pleasure

Welcome to this in-depth, explicit guide for women who want to learn how to give their male partners prostate orgasms and incredible anal pleasure. We’re talking about using fingers, dildos, and strap-ons—everything from gentle exploration to rough, deep pounding that makes him moan and lose control.

This guide will teach you how to find and stimulate the prostate (his so-called male G-spot), how to help him relax and enjoy it, and how to turn anal play into one of the most intimate, filthy, and unforgettable experiences you can share.

We will cover all the angles—from first-time prep, lubes, and anatomy to advanced techniques and dirty talk that will make him feel like your plaything. Ready to learn to own his ass? Let’s begin.

Why Prostate Play?
The prostate is a walnut-sized gland inside his ass, accessible through his anus. Stimulating it feels different from penile stimulation. It produces a deep, full-body orgasm that can be more intense and satisfying than anything he gets from stroking his cock alone.

Prostate orgasms can make him cum hands-free, spurt more cum, or just feel so overwhelmingly good he shakes and whimpers. It’s about giving him permission to be vulnerable, to submit to you, to be taken.

Talking About It
Before you do anything, talk to your partner. This is intimate and can make many men nervous or embarrassed. Tell him you want to explore his body, make him feel incredible, and learn what turns him on. Be patient if he’s shy about anal play. Reassure him it’s normal and intensely pleasurable, not emasculating.

You can say things like "I want to make you lose control for me." Or "I want to make you cum so hard you forget your name." Or even "Let me own your ass tonight."

Preparing for Prostate Play
Preparation is key. You want this experience to be safe, comfortable, and extremely pleasurable for both of you.

Make sure he showers and cleans himself. Some men prefer using an anal douche for extra cleanliness. Have plenty of lube. Anal sex without lube is painful and risky. Go for thick, water-based or silicone-based lube that will last.

Set the mood. Dim the lights, play music if you want. Make him lie down or get on all fours and talk him through relaxing. Tease him with kisses and touches on his back, thighs, balls, and cock.

Tell him to breathe deeply and let you take control.

Finger Play: Getting Him Ready
Start with your fingers. This helps him relax and gets you used to his reactions. Coat your finger in lube. Rub it on his hole in circles, teasing the sensitive rim.

Tell him how hot his ass is for you. Whisper how much you want to fuck him, make him yours. Slide in slowly when he relaxes. Go shallow at first, then deeper. Curl your finger toward his belly button. That’s where his prostate is.

You will feel a firm, spongy bump. Massage it gently. Listen to him moan, tense, or beg. Play with his cock at the same time or have him stroke himself.

You can add a second finger if he wants more. Spread them inside him. Open him up. Tell him you’re stretching him for more. This is your moment to talk dirty. Tell him "Your ass is so tight around my fingers." Or "I’m going to ruin you for anyone else." Or "Beg me for my cock in your ass."

Moving to Toys: Dildos and Strap-Ons
Once he’s relaxed with fingers, it’s time for toys. Dildos are great for practice because you can use them while watching his reactions, adjusting angles, and controlling depth.

Choose a dildo size appropriate for his level. Start small if he’s new. Work up to thicker, longer toys. Lube them thoroughly. You can even warm the lube for comfort.

Push the dildo against his hole and let him feel the pressure. Go slow, give him time. Once it’s in, move gently at first. Rotate it, fuck him slowly. Aim for that prostate spot—press into it, make him squirm.

Tell him how slutty he looks with a toy buried in his ass. Tell him how you love watching him take it. Ask him if he wants it harder, deeper.

Strap-On Play
When he’s ready, you can graduate to using a strap-on. This is where you really get to fuck him. Choose a harness you’re comfortable with and a dildo he can handle.

Lube it well. Make him get on all fours or lie on his back with his legs spread for you. Guide it to his hole, tease him with the tip. Watch him squirm as you push in slowly.

Once you’re inside, fuck him with control. Learn the rhythm that makes him moan. Grind against his prostate. Reach around to stroke his cock or have him do it.

Talk to him. Tell him he’s your good boy, your toy, your slut. Tell him you’re going to make him cum like he never has. Make eye contact if you’re face-to-face. Tell him to beg you not to stop.

If he likes it rough, pound him hard. Slap his ass. Grab his hips. Fuck him like you own him.

Positions for Prostate Play
There are many positions that help you hit the prostate. Let’s go through them in detail.

Missionary with Legs Up. Have him lie on his back and lift his legs for you. This gives you direct access. You can watch his face, kiss him, degrade him, or praise him while you fuck him. It also puts his prostate right in line for deep stimulation.

Doggy Style. Get him on all fours. Spread his cheeks. This is one of the easiest positions to go deep. You can spank him, pull his hair, or just admire your cock disappearing in his ass. Great for controlling pace and angle.

Cowgirl (Him on Bottom, You on Top). Strap on and squat over him, facing him or reverse. Let gravity do the work. Grind into his prostate while watching him moan.

Side-Lying or Spoon. More intimate, gentle. Wrap an arm around his chest while you slide inside him from behind. Good for dirty whispering.

Standing Over Edge of Bed. Have him lie on the bed with his ass at the edge. Stand and fuck him. Easy to go deep, great visual.

Advanced Techniques
Once he’s used to penetration, you can get more creative.

Try double penetration with fingers and a dildo or even two toys if he’s into it. Stuff him full. Tell him he’s your greedy slut.

Angle the toy so it really presses on the prostate. Short, hard thrusts can make him gasp. Slow grinding can make him squirm and whimper.

Encourage him to stroke himself or edge. Make him wait for permission to cum. Deny him until he’s begging.

Tell him exactly what you’re going to do. Say "I’m going to milk your prostate until you cum all over yourself." Or "I want you to be my filthy anal slut tonight." Or "Take it for me. Show me you want it."

Using Your Tongue
If you want to really own him, add rimming. Eat his ass. Lick and suck his hole to relax him. Use your tongue to tease, to get him wet and ready. Tongue-fuck him gently.

Talk to him while you do it. Say "You taste so good." Or "I love eating your ass." Or "Get it nice and open for me." He will go wild.

Combining Prostate and Cock Play
Stroke his cock while you finger or fuck his ass. Use lube and go slowly, matching rhythm.

Some men will cum hands-free from prostate play. Others love being edged while being fucked. Tease him. Stop when he’s close. Make him beg. Let him cum all over his belly, your hand, your chest.

Or deny him entirely and keep fucking him until he loses his mind.

Dirty Talk and Control
This is your chance to own his pleasure. Talk constantly. Praise him, degrade him, command him. Make him feel safe but dominated.

Examples include telling him he’s your good boy, your toy, your slut. Telling him he’s moaning for your cock in his ass. Telling him he’s yours, your ass to use. Ordering him to beg you to keep fucking him. Telling him you’re going to make him cum so hard he’ll never want anything else.

Emotional Connection
Prostate play can be deeply intimate. He’s letting you inside him in a vulnerable way. Show him you want him this way. Make him feel desired, owned, special.

Aftercare is important. Cuddle him. Praise him. Kiss him. Tell him how hot he was.

Safety and Hygiene
Always use plenty of lube. Go slow. Check in with him. If it hurts, stop.

Use condoms on toys if you share them. Clean everything thoroughly. Anal tissues are delicate. Be respectful of his boundaries.

Wrapping It Up
Fucking his prostate is about more than just getting off. It’s about connection, control, intimacy, and pushing limits together.

When you learn to take your time, tease him, make him beg, and own his ass, you’re not just giving him an orgasm. You’re claiming him.

Make him your good boy, your slut, your obedient lover. Make him cum so hard he forgets everything else.

Enjoy the power. Enjoy his surrender. And keep exploring new ways to make him yours.